The Importance of Forgiveness

Yesterday was “Forgiveness Sunday” in the Orthodox Church. It’s the final step of preparation before Great Lent officially begins. (Lent officially begins the following Monday—known as “Clean Monday.”)

I mentioned on Twitter that our Forgiveness Vespers last evening was a beautiful and moving service. Some then asked what is Forgiveness Vespers? As I considered what to say, I came across a short explanation by the late Fr. Alexander Schmemann, a popular Orthodox theologian. Rather than to explain it in my own words, I’m going to share his thoughts with you with some of my own notes added:

Forgiveness Sunday
Thoughts by Alexander Schmemann

In the Orthodox Church, the last Sunday before Great Lent—the day on which, at Vespers [Evening prayer service], Lent is liturgically announced and inaugurated— is called Forgiveness Sunday. On the morning of that Sunday, at the Divine Liturgy [the Eucharistic liturgy], we hear the words of Christ:

“If you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses…” (Mark 6:14–15)

Then after Vespers, after hearing the announcement of Lent in the Great Prokeimenon [a Psalm verse that is sung]: “Turn not away Thy face from Thy child for I am afflicted! Hear me speedily! Draw near unto my soul and deliver it!”—after making our entrance into Lenten worship, with its special memories, with the prayer of St. Ephraim the Syrian

[O Lord and Master of my life, take from me the spirit of sloth, meddling, lust of power and idle talk. But give, rather, the spirit of chastity, humility, patience and love to thy servant. Yea, O Lord and King, grant me to see my own sins and not to judge my brother, for thou art blessed unto ages of ages. Amen.]

with its prostrations—we ask forgiveness from each other, we perform the rite of forgiveness and reconciliation. [Beginning with the clergy and then spreading to all the people, each one facing another—one at time, bows and asks forgiveness saying,“Forgive me, a sinner” and the other responds with “God forgives,” or “I forgive you,” or something similar. By the end, everyone has individually asked forgiveness from each person in the church. This can take a while depending on how large the church.]

And as we approach each other with words of reconciliation, the choir intones the Paschal [Easter] hymns [For example: “Christ is risen from the dead, trampling down death by death, and upon those in the tombs bestowing life.”], filling the church with the anticipation of Paschal joy. [So, even though the spirit of the service is one of humility, repentance and forgiveness, there is an undertone of hope, victory and restoration.]

What is the meaning of this rite? Why is it that the Church wants us to begin the Lenten season with forgiveness and reconciliation? These questions are in order because for too many people Lent means primarily, and almost exclusively, a change of diet, the compliance with ecclesiastical regulations concerning fasting. They understand fasting as an end in itself, as a “good deed” required by God and carrying in itself its merit and its reward.

But, the Church spares no effort in revealing to us that fasting is but a means, one among many, towards a higher goal: the spiritual renewal of man, his return to God, true repentance and, therefore, true reconciliation. The Church spares no effort in warning us against a hypocritical and pharisaic fasting, against the reduction of religion to mere external obligations. As a Lenten hymn says:

In vain do you rejoice in no eating, O soul!
For you abstain from food,
But from passions you are not purified.
If you persevere in sin, you will perform a useless fast.

Now, forgiveness stands at the very center of Christian faith and of Christian life because Christianity itself is, above all, the religion of forgiveness. God forgives us, and His forgiveness is in Christ, His Son, Whom He sends to us, so that by sharing in His humanity we may share in His love and be truly reconciled with God. Indeed, Christianity has no other content but love. And it is primarily the renewal of that love, a return to it, a growth in it, that we seek in Great Lent, in fasting and prayer, in the entire spirit and the entire effort of that season. Thus, truly forgiveness is both the beginning of, and the proper condition for the Lenten season.

One may ask, however: Why should I perform this rite when I have no “enemies”? Why should I ask forgiveness from people who have done nothing to me, and whom I hardly know? To ask these questions, is to misunderstand the Orthodox teaching concerning forgiveness. It is true, that open enmity, personal hatred, real animosity may be absent from our life, though if we experience them, it may be easier for us to repent, for these feelings openly contradict Divine commandments.

But, the Church reveals to us that there are much subtler ways of offending Divine Love. These are indifference, selfishness, lack of interest in other people, of any real concern for them—in short, that wall which we usually erect around ourselves, thinking that by being “polite” and “friendly” we fulfill God’s commandments. The rite of forgiveness is so important precisely because it makes us realize—be it only for one minute—that our entire relationship to other men is wrong, makes us experience that encounter of one child of God with another, of one person created by God with another, makes us feel that mutual “recognition” which is so terribly lacking in our cold and dehumanized world.

On that unique evening, listening to the joyful Paschal hymns we are called to make a spiritual discovery: to taste of another mode of life and relationship with people, of life whose essence is love. We can discover that always and everywhere Christ, the Divine Love Himself, stands in the midst of us, transforming our mutual alienation into brotherhood. As l advance towards the other, as the other comes to me—we begin to realize that it is Christ Who brings us together by His love for both of us.

And because we make this discovery—and because this discovery is that of the Kingdom of God itself: the Kingdom of Peace and Love, of reconciliation with God and, in Him, with all that exists—we hear the hymns of that Feast, which once a year, “opens to us the doors of Paradise.” We know why we shall fast and pray, what we shall seek during the long Lenten pilgrimage. Forgiveness Sunday: the day on which we acquire the power to make our fasting—true fasting; our effort—true effort; our reconciliation with God—true reconciliation.

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8 Responses to “The Importance of Forgiveness”

  1. Hi Gail! I found your site through your husband. I follow him on twitter, my handle is @chicken_scratch. I too am an Orthodox Christian and have spent the last little while reading your wonderfully articulate and well-written blog. You can count me among your regular readers now.

  2. Nathan Mallory March 8, 2009 at 3:52 pm

    Wow, that was a solid affirmation and explanation on forgiveness sunday. It makes me miss the Orthodox Church even more. I think I have a greater appreciation everyday for the Orthodox Church, especially when I’m reminded of what I am missing out on.

    Thanks Godmama!

  3. Gail,
    Just wanted to let you know how moved I was by your piece on forgiveness! It was beautifully written, and I love how you started on a light note and then went to the heart of the matter. Your grace and gentleness shines through in this. God bless you,
    Suzy Parish

  4. Dear Gail,

    Such a beautiful image and piece of writing. I love that quilt. It captures it perfectly. I was heartbroken to miss Forgiveness Sunday–at home with sick kids. My only glimpse of it was when my husband forgot his purple vestments so I had to run them down to the church, and on the way up the steps, a sweet, sweet dose of incense-laden air. It was such a tiny bit of Forgiveness Sunday, beautiful just the same.

    Jenny Schroedel

  5. Hi Susan,

    I emailed you regarding the artwork. It is actually a quilt by Ellen Lindner. I absolutely LOVE her work.

    Here is the link:

    She is a true artist.

    I forgot that you were an iconographer. I went to your blog (which is now on my blogroll: and love your work as well. May God bless all that your hands find to do.

    Warm regards,

  6. We are tracking together, Gail. I also included Fr. Schmemann’s words on Forgiveness Sunday on my blog yesterday. I LOVE the artwork you included with this post–where did you find that? I’m an iconographer, but sometimes I play around with gouche and a little bit of abstract/interpretive stuff. (very much an amateur) Anyway, this image (which looks like mixed media) truly captures the kiss of peace. I’m going to add your blog to my favorite links on my site. I need to do some reorganizing, to separate out the favorite blogs from other links, like bookstores, etc. Maintenance work, don’t you just love it? Good Lent.

  7. I’ve never heard of a forgiveness service, Gail, but how beautiful! Forgiveness is my hot button. It makes its way into every book I write even when I plan to have something else. I hope everyone reads this post. You’re so right about the little things we don’t even notice. Eye-opening!

  8. Beautiful post and explanation. Thank you my sister.

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